Using Assessments to Enhance Life-Story Writing

Came across an interesting juxtaposition of two interests of mine. In an article title How to Write One’s Life Story in which author Christina Hamlett writes:

Fill out self-assessment quizzes and introspective writing exercises. In addition to personality tests you can find in consumer magazines and on the Internet, books such as Barbara Ann Kipfer’s 4,000 Questions For Getting To Know Anyone and Everyone, Margaret Tiberio’s The Book of Self-Acquaintance and Dr. Gregory Stock’s The Book of Questions will get you thinking about what really makes you tick.


I’ve studied assessments (that measure skills, aptitudes, interests, personality, values, etc.) for a couple of graduate courses, and every couple of years, I update an Assessment Review Chart of free and inexpensive Internet-based assessments on A Storied Career’s parent site, Quintessential Careers (it’s currently in need of updating). I also keep a large 3-ring binder with all my assessment results.

I can certainly see that some of the consistent patterns that always show up when I take these assessments — my creativity, intuition, and introversion, for example — could provide food for thought for life-story writing. Did I always have these characteristics? Are they the product of nature or nurture? Do my parents share these traits? My sisters? What stories from my life best illustrate these aspects of my personality? In what ways have these traits helped me in my life? In what ways have they presented obstacles?

While assessments get you thinking about consistent patterns in your core being, the kinds of question books and sites Hamlett recommends are terrific for stimulating your thinking about all kinds of aspects of your life. These questions generally help you get at more specific bits of your existence.

I did a quick Google search using the terms “life story prompts” and saw promising sets of questions at sites like:

What assessments or sets of prompts/questions have you found useful for life-story writing?

Business Fable Says Improved Customer Interactions Create More Enjoyable Work Environment

Barbara Burke self-published her novel, The Napkin, the Melon & the Monkey, in 2006 and found it to be so successful that Hay House bought the rights to publish it in 2008. The Hay House version releases Feb. 1.

I enjoy “collecting” business novels — works of fiction that teach business lessons through storytelling — and am usually so excited to come across one that I tend to spread the word before I’ve finished reading them. (interestingly, Steve Denning said in a blurb for the book that business fables are “a dime a dozen;” yes, I come across them with some regularity, but I don’t feel they are all that common.)

A synopsis from Burke’s site:

As a new customer service agent, Olivia has been trained to handle irate customers in a calm, professional manner. But one day she loses control and yells back. Terrified that she’ll be fired, she seeks out Isabel, the call center’s sage.

The extraordinary advice she receives from her wise mentor changes her life:

  • SODA (Stop. Observe. Decide. Act) — a sure-fire formula for remaining calm in any situation
  • Unplugging — a centuries-old practice to reduce anxiety and promote creativity
  • Aha!s — 22 practical insights that become the framework for living a happy life

This modern-day fable shows us that the best way to reduce stress is to cultivate mindfulness. While we cannot control much of what happens, we can get better outcomes if we stop to see situations clearly and calmly.

This book serves as both a powerful resource for business professionals looking for practical, easy-to-use tools for dealing with difficult people and an inspirational tale for those who want better relationships and a happier life.

From the Cover:

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could become happy and successful
by simply changing your mind?

Meet Olivia, the newest hire at Mighty Power’s customer service call center. Excited to have a stable job and a good salary, Olivia starts out with a sunny disposition and a can-do attitude. However, the constant barrage of angry calls from frustrated customers soon wears her down. Instead of handling these irate customers in a calm, professional manner, as she was trained to do, she loses her temper and strikes back.

Terrified that she will be fired for her behavior she asks Isabel, an experienced rep and the call center’s wise woman, for help. The extraordinary advice she receives changes her life, and may change yours, too.

In this modern-day parable, author Barbara Burke introduces 22 unforgettable life lessons that are the framework for living a happy, struggle-free life. We learn that while we have no control over much of what happens to us in life or the behavior of others, we can choose our reaction. The secret to success is being able to stop long enough to see situations clearly–to see “what is.” Making this one small change gives us the power to make better decisions and get better outcomes. Being more mindful enables us to handle even the most challenging interactions with customers, co-workers, friends, and family with grace and ease. The Napkin, The Melon & The Monkey serves as both a powerful resource for business professionals looking for easy-to-use tools to sharpen their “inner game” and as an inspirational tale for those who want better relationships and a happier life.

You can listen to the book’s first chapter, read by the author here.

Maybe Storytelling Approaches Would Have Helped US Intelligence ‘Connect the Dots’

President Obama repeated yesterday that the US intelligence community “failed to connect the dots in a way that would have prevented a known terrorist from attacking America.”

I’m thinking that imbuing the various intelligence organizations with storytelling techniques could help them get better at connecting the dots.

That’s what storytelling’s all about after all — connecting dots, making meaning, sensemaking.

Obama talked about better analysis, but perhaps conventional analytical approaches aren’t best suited when there are dots to be connected.

My colleagues who are storytelling practitioners and consultants know better than I do exactly how the organizations could be trained in storytelling approaches.

NASA could also provide an excellent model for storytelling approaches as storytelling is well-ingrained in the NASA culture. This article (and many others) describes how storytelling works to teach lessons at NASA: “APPL [NASA’s Academy of Program and Project Leadership] uses stories as their chief knowledge transfer method — the mechanism these program leaders use to shape and define their culture and to pass along lessons to the younger generation. Quite frankly, the process of writing the stories is often how they discover lessons in the first place.”

A Social-Media Week Story Project and a Life-Story Seminar

Two notable back-to-back story events coming up:

Jill Golick is organizing a Social Media Week Story Project, Social Media Week being Feb. 1-5. Golick wants to “use the social media to tell some stories about how social media are affecting relationships” and is recruiting writers, actors, designers and other interested collaborators to “put together a story room … to turn … data into story arcs.” Then, Golick wants to “have each writer create a character on the web using social media tools like blogs, social bookmarking, FriendFeed and Twitter. They can cast actors to ‘play’ their character in profile pictures, photo albums and other media they may develop.”

“During Social Media Week,” Golick says, participants can “play out the stories of our characters through their social networking activities.” She invites interested folks to e-mail her.

Then, on Feb. 6, Noa Baum (pictured), whom I had the pleasure of meeting at the 2009 Golden Fleece Conference last April, is holding an all-day seminar called “Your Life’s Story and the Legacy You Leave” under the auspices of the Smithsonian Resident Associate Program.

Some snippets from the seminar description:

Noa Baum shows how to shape memories into a personal narrative and how to reveal underlying universal themes.

The morning session provides an introduction to the oral tradition of storytelling as the oldest tool for transmitting wisdom and values from one generation to the next. After lunch, participants learn techniques for deepening and expanding the images within their stories, exploring the connections between personal narratives and universal archetypes. They also explore the role of the listener in shaping a story and learn how to interact with their listeners to gain insight into how stories become legacies.

Go here to reserve a spot in the seminar, which is held in Washington DC, at the S. Dillon Ripley Center of the Smithsonian.

Thanks to Thaler Pekar for alerting me to this one.

Even a Bare-Bones Story Can Be Compelling

The other night, Randall and I watched the HBO movie Taking Chance, starring Kevin Bacon.

We were struck by how emotional, compelling, and affecting this film was given the simplest, starkest of stories.

Essentially a high-ranking Marine (Bacon), who is a number-crunching cubicle-dweller, makes an unexpected decision to escort home the remains of a fellow Marine, a PFC. Apparently it’s unusual for an officer of the protagonist’s rank to escort the remains of a PFC.

That’s pretty much the entire story. Beginning = the decision to escort the remains. Middle = the journey of Bacon and the remains. End = arrival of Bacon and the remains at the home of the family of the fallen Marine.

As I reflected on what made such a simple story so powerful, I concluded that two factors gave the film its gravitas.

The first was the revelation of the process and ritual of the returning of military personnel killed in wartime. Americans have a vague concept of remains arriving at Dover Air Force Base, but we don’t know much beyond that. I didn’t know that each of the fallen gets a military escort back to his or her family.

The film shows many details of the process — how the bodies are cared for with love, honor, and dignity at the Dover mortuary. They are given perfect uniforms, even if their physical bodies are so mangled by war that the military recommends a closed casket so that no one ever sees the uniform. At every point in the journey home, the military escort must verify the contents of the casket and give it “honors” (a salute). Visual storytelling is key to this aspect of the film’s storytelling, with snippets of the process of caring for the remains repeated several times in the film as reminders. The entire process and ritual comprised a revelatory glimpse for me — and I would guess they would for most Americans who don’t hear about these procedures.

The second factor that gives the story power is the tacit knowledge held by many of the people Bacon encounters on his journey that he is an escort and his cargo is a fallen serviceman — from the flight attendant who gives Bacon a crucifix, to the baggage handlers who remove their hats and bow their heads as the body is removed from the plane, to the drivers of the vehicles that turn on their lights and form an impromptu funeral procession during the final drive of the remains to the family’s home. This aspect, too, is a triumph of visual storytelling.

The film serves as an excellent example that a story need not be complex or twisted to elicit a deeply emotional response.

Job-Interview Story Series, Part 4: Industry-Changer Interview

I regularly evangelize the idea of using stories as a way of communicating in the job search. But another way job-seekers can benefit from stories is by learning from the stories — or case studies — of others. With this entry, I conclude a short series of job-interview stories that may prove instructional for others.

Interviewing for position in new industry

“Wayne Braverman” had spent six years in management consulting, managing projects of all sizes and with companies ranging from start-ups to Fortune 500 companies, when an opportunity came up with the customer business solutions unit of a large, multi-national beverage manufacturer, where he would have the opportunity to “help build an organization, utilize my background and skills, and work with an environment that was constantly growing and changing.”

Braverman’s entire career had been in management consulting, so this opportunity represented the first time he had considered changing industries. “I was passionate about consulting, and at the same time, I felt that I needed to get some ‘industry’ experience and not just follow the standard process to [become a] partner within the consulting world,” Braverman says. “This was an opportunity to help build a new organization, work with an amazing team, and expand my skill set.”

Description of interview process: To prepare, Braverman researched the company, identified the key players who might know something about the role and team, and spoke to them prior to the interview so he could go into the interview sessions with as many facts as possible. The prospective interviewers also provided considerable material about the organization, team, culture, and more, Braverman says. “At the same time, I outlined my own personal brand on paper and with my resume created a ‘Wayne Braverman package.'”

The series of interviews Braverman underwent comprised a mix of case questions and situational questions. A number of questions, he recalls, delved into his change of industries, revolving around adapting to a highly political environment that was different from consulting. “I expected these questions and had given a great deal of thought to the career transition – pros and cons,” Braverman says.

Braverman made sure he was knowledgeable about the new industry, but he also used his outsider status to his advantage. “In large industry-centric organizations, hiring external ‘non-system’ individuals can at times be a challenge,” Braverman acknowledges. “Knowledge of the consumer-packaged goods industry and the organization were critical to the position, and at the same time, this was an opportunity for the organization to bring on fresh thinking and new ideas in a role that did not require 100 percent knowledge of the organization on Day 1.”

To sell the employer on the idea that his qualifications would transfer to the new sector, Braverman outlined his experience in leading projects related to the skill set required in the position for which he was interviewing. “I outlined my personal brand, career goals, and aspirations, reasons that I felt the role was a solid fit, value that I felt I would bring to the organization, and I did a lot of listening,” he says.

Braverman also asked about the culture, the team, career-growth options, and potential for professional and personal development. “I asked about opportunities for ‘entrepreneurial’ thinking vs. ‘system’ thinking,” he recalls.

Outcome: Fortunately Braverman felt he truly clicked with his interviewers and experienced a connection. He received and accepted the offer.

Lessons learned/What the candidate would do differently if faced with the same situation: “If I were leaving one industry for another today,” Braverman says, “I would certainly do as much industry research as possible to understand the macroeconomic trends affecting the industry as well as the organization-specific strategies, objectives, and measures. Title is important, but not nearly as important as the culture, people, role, and responsibilities.”

Job-Interview Story Series, Part 3: Presentation Interview

I regularly evangelize the idea of using stories as a way of communicating in the job search. But another way job-seekers can benefit from stories is by learning from the stories — or case studies — of others. With this entry, I continue a short series of job-interview stories that may prove instructional for others.

Description of interview process: Although employers sometimes ask the candidate to deliver a presentation as part of an interview, “Michael D. Simone” gave a presentation on his own initiative at his interview for a CFO position with a $50-million AV systems integration group in the Mid-Atlantic region. This interview marked the first time Simone had used a presentation in an interview.

Simone was sought for the position by a recruiter, from whom he requested company background information to prepare. “She was not able to provide much help other than directing me to the company Web site,” Simone recalls. When he mentioned that he planned to use an interview presentation, Simone learned that the recruiter had never heard of an interview presentation. “At first I could tell that I was not the recruiter’s top choice,” Simone says. He believes both the quality of his questions and his persistence in responding to them persuaded the recruiter to begin to consider Simone the top candidate.

To create his interview presentation, Simone used a service called InterviewBest and followed the service’s step-by-step guide that enables users to include or exclude any of the suggested pages. “I chose to use some of the examples as is, modified others to suit my needs, as well as using some of my own ideas,” Simone says. He found the actual process of creating the presentation extremely helpful as interview preparation. “After completing the presentation, I was ready for any question they had for me,” he said. “I had a success story ready to go for each question and/or situation that arose.”

Simone’s completed 12-page presentation included:

  • Cover page
  • Position Requirements (directly from job description)
  • My Match with the Position Requirements (content from resume and success stories) Additional Areas of Expertise (content from resume)
  • Outstanding Accomplishments (Success stories, including content from resume and InterviewBest’s libraries)
  • Personal Success Factors (examples and modified examples from InterviewBest’s library, along with Simone’s own content)
  • Strategic Action Plan (examples and modified examples from InterviewBest’s library, along with Simone’s own content)
  • Why Hire Me? (content from resume and success stories)
  • Closing Questions (content from InterviewBest’s library)
  • Contact Information

Simone also uploaded his photo and the company logo to personalize the presentation.

(Although Simone did not want his presentation published for confidentiality reasons, InterviewBest founder Eric Kramer provided a similar sample presentation, which is reprinted with permission: Interview Presentation)

The presentation enabled Simone to deliver key points describing the employer’s challenges and how he could meet them. He told the interview panel that he would:

  • Improve communications among departments.
  • Ensure the accuracy and clarity of financial reports.
  • Take the team from the current status quo of “customer-service focused” to “entrepreneurial-big picture focused.”
  • Conduct an actionable competitive analysis.

Candidates might wonder how to arrange for the appropriate technology for an interview presentation that the employer is not expecting. Simone simply had his presentation professionally printed and bound rather than projecting his slides.

Simone reports that the interview panel members were impressed by the presentation’s content and “well-organized approach that systematically answered their most important questions.”

Outcome: Simone got and accepted the job offer.

Lessons learned/What the candidate would do differently if faced with the same situation: If he were interviewing in the future, Simone says he would definitely use an interview presentation again. However, he would “conduct a more thorough investigation of the prospective company.”

Simone’s advice to others who want to employ an interview presentation: “Don’t get caught up in following the presentation item by item and page by page. I used it as a conversation piece and a reference tool. It is also an excellent leave-behind to remind the interviewer about the important discussion points of your interview.”

Job-Interview Story Series, Part 2: Board of Directors Interviews

I regularly evangelize the idea of using stories as a way of communicating in the job search. But another way job-seekers can benefit from stories is by learning from the stories — or case studies — of others. With this entry, I continue a short series of job-interview stories that may prove instructional for others.

Two CEO Interviews with Boards of Directors

Although boards of directors often interview prospective CEOs, boards also sometimes interview other high-level executives, such as CFOs, says Jacquelyn Saad, president of
Inter-Change Consulting Inc., Toronto. “Other executives will be interviewed by the head of the board committee that governs their piece of the organization,” Saad says. She explains that when she interviewed for the role of senior vice president, human resources, for a broadcasting company, her eight interviews included the chairman of the board and the chair of the HR subcommittee.

The role of boards of directors in large public companies is to determine the type of CEO they would like to hire, notes Keith Daniels, owner and president of Capital Selective Advisors in Chicago, “and then give that description to an executive recruiter firm. That firm will then obtain candidates and then thoroughly evaluate them to see if they fit what the board of directors was looking for,” Daniels says.

Daniels explains that at certain points, recruiters will advise the board about possible candidates “who have emerged from the scrubbing, and then the board is likely to have a sub-group handle further interviews until such time as a smaller group of candidates remains.” Candidates will then likely each have an opportunity to meet and be interviewed by the board in its entirety, Daniels notes. “Depending on what are the metrics being used by a board, members may look only at current CEOs with other companies, or they might look for persons with Chief Financial Officer experience, or in some cases, they might want someone with experience managing large operations,” Daniels says.

“Richard G.” has been a CEO in a Fortune 500 company and on multiple boards of small and larger companies as well as interviewed for several CEO positions. All told he has undergone about a dozen interviews for CEO and board positions, ranging from highly structured interviews to short conversations with people he already knew quite well. “The processes were often very dissimilar,” he reports. “I find that for board positions, the processes are all very variable, but for CEO positions, more structured,” he says. He described both a successful and unsuccessful interview with boards of directors.

Description of interview process: To prepare, Richard learned as much about the companies and people as possible, both through published material and by talking to ex-employees. The successful interview, for a high-tech company with sales in the tens of millions, “involved a recruiter who already knew me quite well, but then introduced me to the chairman,” Richard recalls. “He and I had probably eight conversations, including over dinner, and another half a dozen detailed email exchanges.” Richard says the chairman sought considerable help and advice before he would make a commitment. “I was somewhat concerned that he was simply picking my brain, but the recruiter kept reassuring me that he was not, and she was correct,” Richard says. “He did make a commitment after several months.”

Another CEO position Richard interviewed for was at a $1-billion family-owned food company, where the patriarch had died, and the board had told the heir apparent that, at 37, he was too young to take over. “I interviewed with a panel of all the outside directors and the heir,” Richard remembers. The heir was “hostile,” Richard says, “and the board members were clearly trying to demonstrate to him that I would do a better job than he would.” After hearing nothing for a month after the interview, Richard learned that the heir was taking the job after all.

The questions that Richard has been asked in board interviews include:

  • How much time can you invest?
  • How knowledgeable are you about reporting responsibilities and legal liabilities?
  • What kind of connections do you have?
  • Can you advise on implementation as well as strategy?

Richard asked the boards about specific objectives of the businesses, such as sales or mergers and growth or maintenance, as well as about cultural fit.

Throughout his board interview experiences, Richard has picked up on various shades of organizational politics. “I find few boards are as much in sync as they pretend to be,” he observes. “Different factions are looking for allies, and in the case of family-owned or dominated business — as one third of Fortune 500 companies are — there are family politics to worry about. These are difficult to understand since you will not meet all the key people during the interview process,” he says.

Outcome: Richard received an offer from the high-tech company, but as we saw, he was passed over in favor of a family member at the family-owned food company.

Lessons learned/What the candidate would do differently if faced with the same situation: Richard said he would “do more due diligence behind the scenes, discover the hidden agendas, and understand who dominates the group. He advises other executives preparing for an interview with a board of directors to learn “what makes each of them tick, and in a group setting who is really the leader.”

Read the story of another executive’s board of directors interview in the extended entry.

“Jon Belleggi” had his first board-of-directors interview-though not his first interview for a CEO position-with a rural New England direct-marketing company with several catalogs and Web sites.

Description of interview process: “I had my initial interview with an executive recruiter,” Belleggi recalls. Having successfully passed that screen, his next interview was with the chairman of the board who was also a senior partner in the private equity group that owns the company. That interview finished with the chair telling Belleggi that he would be interviewing with the board. “He gave me an overview of who they were, and I learned their names,” Belleggi says. Belleggi researched the board members by reading articles they had written.

His next interview was with the full board, consisting of two founders (who were husband and wife), an independent board member, one private equity group partner, and one private equity group manager. “The interview began with an overview of the board, company history, and future objectives,” Belleggi says. “We talked about my background and how relevant it was to the overall strategy of the company and the private equity group’s objectives. We then spoke about challenges facing the company-how the private equity group pictured it growing and how we would achieve those objectives. We finished with a somewhat lengthy discussion of how the organization could survive the departure of the founder and current CEO,” Belleggi remembers.

Among the questions the board members asked him were:

  • What are the major strengths you bring to this company?
  • What are the biggest challenges you think the company will face in the next 3-5 years?

Among the questions Belleggi asked of the board were:

  • How do you resolve differences of opinion among members of the board?
  • How do you think things will be different with me as CEO?
  • What is the level of board involvement (in particular, founder involvement) in day-to-day operations of the business?

Belleggi also recalls that one of the company founders asked very detailed and specific questions about the nuances of direct marketing. “It was a level of detail I did not expect the board to be working on,” Belleggi notes. “This line of questioning became a prelude to the real issue at hand.” The wife half of the married-couple founders did not want to leave the day-to-day operations of the company, and not everyone on the board wanted to hire a new CEO-particularly the wife, who was the present CEO.

The wife was “very reserved and made the interview a bit uncomfortable,” Belleggi says, “but the tone improved when discussions revealed that she did not want to leave the company’s day-to-day operations, and the rest of the board, including her husband, wanted her to.”

Outcome: Belleggi received and accepted the offer to become CEO.

Lessons learned/What the candidate would do differently if faced with the same situation: In retrospect, Belleggi feels he should have addressed the “elephant in the room”-the wife who did not wanting to leave as CEO-right up front. “Instead, we all sat thru 20-30 minutes of somewhat uncomfortable dynamics until the issue surfaced,” he says. Belleggi also felt the recruiter could have been more helpful. “I enjoyed the executive recruiter a lot,” he says. “However, she could have done a better job letting me know about the founder’s reluctance to leave the CEO role. Later she said she didn’t realize the magnitude of the situation, but this very much surprised me.” Based on the uncomfortable portion of his experience, Belleggi advises others who undergo board interviews to gain insights into the intra-board dynamics.

Barb Poole, president of Hire Imaging, LLC, in St. Cloud, MN, offers this additional advice for handling interviews with boards of directors, especially where reporting to a board will be part of the deal:

  • “Find out who the lead director on the board is, and establish a rapport, if possible, with that person. He or she will likely have influence with the other directors, and will understand the board’s perspectives and dynamics.
  • “Make an effort to connect with each board member. Ask them about their expectations for the company, their expectations for the executive position, and their experiences on the board. What worked well? What didn’t? In making this connection, you may be able to come to a ‘meeting of the minds’ regarding overall board objectives and leadership/management style.
  • “Clearly show your expectations. As you interview the board members, again press for their outlook for the company, management, teams and talent.”

Taking the time to strategize and execute these steps, Poole says, “will not only give you a clear picture of the organization that you would lead; it will break down barriers and facilitate higher-level communications with the board that will maximize your ability to speak to what you bring to the table relative to their needs.”

Short Series of Job-Interview Stories Debuts Today

I regularly evangelize the idea of using stories as a way of communicating in the job search. But another way job-seekers can benefit from stories is by learning from the stories — or case studies — of others. With this entry, I begin a short series of job-interview stories that may prove instructional for others.

Multiple interviews over a many-month period

Few interview-process horror stories can top this case study. “Lynne Blake” tells a mind-boggling saga of an interview process that lasted more than nine frustrating months. The epic was so excruciating that Blake gave it a title: “I Could Have Had a Baby … Or Water-Boarding a Candidate.”

Description of interview process: The position was with a very large, very well-known defense contractor, Blake recalls. “A former colleague of mine works with them and raved about how good they are with their people. She kept watching the posting boards, sending me various roles until there was finally one that was a great match,” Blake says. “That was June 2008.” Blake noted that the position was a key start-up role with responsibility for the Pan-European countries. “Compensation was north of $200K,” Blake says, “and the internal business plan called for the person to be on board by Q2 or Q3 of 2008.”

Blake goes on to tell the story of the interview process in diary form:

“July 2008: I have phone screen with internal recruiter. He says he will put my credentials forward and set up phone screens with two or three internal people. He has me log onto the HR Web site and fill out extensive application and background-checking information.

“August 2008: During the first week of August, I have the phone screen, a very general conversation, with the hiring manager.

“September 2008: During the first week of September, I have a phone screen with a person who runs a parallel team for a different division. He has a far different view of what the role needs from the hiring manager’s view, including a difference of opinion on where the new hire will be located and what background they are looking for.

“I then attempt three follow-ups with the internal recruiter for the position over four weeks trying to get an update and more details on strategy. I get no reply.

“October 2008: I finally track down the internal recruiter. He says they don’t really know what they are looking for. There are four people involved, and all four have a different profile in mind. They will try to reach ‘some kind’ of agreement in the next week or so.

“Last week of October: I receive a voice message that says they have shortlisted four candidates, and they would like to have me come for face-to-face interviews.

“November 2008: At this point, I have tried to reach the recruiter for three weeks. Finally I have my “inside” friend locate the hiring manager’s phone number for me. When I reach him, he tells me that the internal recruiter resigned, and they were unable to locate any of my information (what happened to all the stuff online in their HR system?). Thank goodness I called, he says, as all the other candidates have been interviewed. They will contact me to arrange a trip to Belgium for a face-to-face ASAP.

“A new internal recruiter calls me on Monday of Thanksgiving week but says he really has no information about the role. He will have his personal assistant call to arrange the trip because they want me to go on Thanksgiving weekend, which is three days away. The personal assistant organizes a trip that gets me to Belgium at 7:30 a.m., but with a return flight of 10 a.m. the same day. (She didn’t know that you actually get to Europe the day after you leave the U.S.) Unfortunately the travel agent cannot change anything for a candidate and the personal assistant and recruiter have left for the holiday! Finally I call the office in Europe and ask them to contact the travel agency to resolve the situation.

“December 2008: I have a meeting in Belgium the first week of December and obtain a third opinion of what type of person they want. We now have no agreement on the type of background needed for the role, where the person will be based, whom the person will report to, and how the role will be structured (expat or local EU hire). The company closes on Dec. 19 for the rest of the year. I receive no further contact at all after the interview in Belgium.

Read the rest of the saga in the extended entry.

“January 2009, eight months after initial application: On Jan. 9, I catch up with the hiring manager. I am fairly straightforward with him. I explain that the project I’m working is over at the end of January, and I either need to start a job search or look for a new project, but before I do so I’d like to find out where they are on this position. He tells me that they are now down to three candidates, and if I will give him one more week, he will let me know (he does, however, let me know that I am his candidate of choice).

“On Jan. 13, the hiring manager calls me to tell me that they have decided to make me an offer, but the internal recruiter who has to handle the offer will be off until Jan 22. On Jan. 23, the recruiter calls me, and his first question is ‘what kind of package am I expecting?’ I shoot straight and tell him that no one has discussed money since the first conversation, so what is the salary? We agree on the broad parameters, including where the position will be based and the structure of the package, but he has no idea of a start date. I explain that this is the critical issue for me since I have to arrange to complete my project and give notice on my long-term-stay flat. He says he’ll call me back. He also tells me that they are having problems verifying my educational credentials; the only number they have for my college is the one that was on their internal Web site documents. I look up the college Web site for this very well known business school in Atlanta and give him the number.

“On Jan. 26, the recruiter calls me and says they want to have me ‘on the ground’ in Belgium by March 1. He is just waiting for the final signatures on the package. I tell him that I would also like to at least meet my immediate manager face-to-face before I go. He says he will check on that, and we agree that I will have the offer in hand by the end of the week.

“February 2009 (nine months and counting): On Feb. 2, I get four messages from the recruiter. Could it be the offer at long last? No! They have three or four other people who would like to interview me before extending the offer. I’m too mad to even attempt calling the hiring manager to find out what’s going on, so I wait a day. I explain about the position I’m now in, but he says ‘Well, my boss told me to go ahead, but now she wants to interview you plus have two or three other team members talk to me. What else can I do but agree?’ He does tell me that I am the only candidate left, so if they don’t agree on me it means starting over from ground zero.

“I claw back my notice on the flat (and pay a $75 fee to cover their costs of already running an ad and taking applications), but since I have already started to transition my client to another project manager, I will just have to suck that up.

“I actively start my job search. I’ve been passively searching but was hesitant to start too much just to tell recruiters, friends, and contacts: “Never mind, Big Jerky Company just came through.”

“February 9 and 10 is where it really starts to get insulting/funny/surreal. I go to Dallas for the interviews. I am scheduled to talk to the UK office via conference call. I am put into a conference room and dialed into the call. Twenty minutes later, no one has picked up on the other end. I go to the receptionist, and she cannot even find the two people who are supposed to be on the call with me. After 45 minutes, she locates one of them who claims to be “too busy” to do it today, and we arrange for her to call me at home the next day at 11 a.m. They never locate the gentleman who was supposed to be on the call.

“The hiring manager’s boss then calls me to her office. There is another person there, but other than his name, I am not given any information about who he is or why he’s there. The total time I spend in this interview with both people is 25 minutes. At the end the boss says ‘Well, I really wanted someone with deep EU government contacts’ (which I do not have). Where the heck has she been for the past nine months? So, I took two days off from work, traveled a total of seven hours, and spent the night away for a 25-minute interview.

“On Feb. 11, the woman from the UK does not call at the appointed time. On Feb. 12, my mobile phone rings at 6:15 a.m. I learn upon checking my messages that the call was from the woman from the UK, but since I do not answer my phone 24/7, she leaves me a message to call her in the UK!

“I try twice and leave two messages. I call the hiring manager for his feedback from the Dallas interview and to get the UK woman’s email address. The hiring manager doesn’t have the address, and despite being in Dallas today, he is unable to get any feedback on the interview as his boss is “too busy.”

“On Feb. 13, I call the UK office and mash numbers until a human answers. I have to talk to three people, but finally someone gives me the woman’s email address. We have a short email exchange, and we agree that the interview will take place on Monday Feb. 16 at 8 p.m. her time and 2 p.m. my time. I am very specific to document the appointment in just that way to avoid any issues on the time difference. I arrange to leave the office early to be at home for the call.

“On Feb. 16, I miss the call from the UK woman while I am in shower. It is 8 a.m., and I get a very snotty message from the woman about not being there at the appointed time. I forward her the email she sent showing 8 p.m. her time, 2 p.m. mine, and ask if I still need to be available at 2 p.m. or not. At 1:40 p.m., she calls and says she has only 5-10 minutes, but can we at least start? Her first question: When is my start date set? I explain that nothing has been agreed upon as all is on hold for these conversations. She says she does not have time to talk in depth, but she will call back later on in the week. No call comes.

“On Feb. 19, the assistant for the hiring manager calls to tell me that everyone is so busy right now (except for me apparently), and that he still has no feedback from the Dallas interview. I tell him that I’m busy too and cannot continue to rearrange my schedule and take time off from work only to be blown off time and time again. He apologizes and says he will make sure that his boss calls me on Friday, Feb. 20. No call arrives that day.

“As of Feb. 22, I realize that I am in the very same position I was last month with my landlord, but now I’m also out of work. I decide that the time had come to fish or cut bait. I drop the hiring manager an email. He’s in Dubai and calls me immediately. I explain that if I cannot get an answer by the end of this week, I will have to move forward on either accepting another project with my existing firm, which would mean that I will have a longer notice period, or withdraw my candidacy completely. He says he understands and it (finally) sounds as if he’s getting a little mad with his people as well. Says he will push to have a resolution by the end of the week.

“The company finally comes back and gives me an offer after I phone up and say ‘sorry, but I’m moving on.’ The offer is incredible and way over and above the other offer I got in the same week.”

Outcome: Blake says she spent two weeks debating the offer and talking to about a dozen people inside the company via LinkedIn to gain insight. She finally decided to take the offer. “Every employee I spoke to-without exception-claimed that the company is very good to its employees and that working there is a great thing,” Blake says, “so I have to assume that it can only go up from here.” Blake realizes it may shock some people that she accepted the offer but, she says, “in today’s market a company with this kind of stability and a package like this one do not come along easily.”

Blake learned after speaking to numerous people in the hiring chain about the situation that although the company’s process is normally lengthy, “this one was way over the average.”
Blake feels she was fortunate in that the discussion started when she was still employed, “leaving me a bit of breathing room while they dawdled.”

Lessons learned/What the candidate would do differently if faced with the same situation: “If this situation occurred in the future,” Blake says she would shorten the time between contacts and be very diligent about continuing her search. “It truly was not until I had decided that I was ‘over it’ that and would move on that they realized [they would lose me] and actually moved forward.”

Blake’s advice to others in the same situation: “Do not follow the natural tendency to sit back waiting for the offer. After they pulled back the supposed offer in January, I became very focused on my search and found that I was getting a lot more play in other areas.”

Alerting the employer that you have other opportunities in the wings can jolt the hiring team into action. You can simply ignore the indecisive company and pursue other opportunities. But you might also consider a polite ultimatum. Express your understanding of the time the employer needs to make a decision but that you also have decisions to make. Suggest a deadline. Two weeks to a month is reasonable. Tell the employer you would love to come on board, and remind the decision-maker of what you’ll contribute to the bottom line. But suggest that if the employer can’t decide by the deadline, you’ll need to withdraw your candidacy.

Two New Story Blogs for the New Year

Two new story blogs emerged in the waning months of 2009, produced by story folks I highly admire and respect:


Story Route, published by Cathryn Wellner, features entries in such categories as business narrative, organizational storytelling, personal narratives, poems, social myths, and storytelling quotations. Cathryn writes: “Join me on the Story Route. We’ll explore personal stories, stories organizations tell, even some stories countries tell.” She shared with me this heartwarming video story — with a twist — about training a service dog.

Meanwhile, Cynthia Kurtz has started Story Colored Glasses. Cynthia wrote in her first blog entry back in October, “The point of this blog is to give some of the ideas that chose to land on me new places to go. May life surround them.” Many of Cynthia’s early entries have focused on her “eight observations about stories and storytelling in groups, and about helping people tell and work with stories.” She writes that her eight observations “were not scientific findings; they were just things I had encountered that had surprised me and that gave me food for thought. (Nor were they original thoughts, if there are such things; many others have talked about them as well.) As the years go by I find myself returning to the eight things often; so I thought a good way to start this blog might be to talk about each observation and what I think it means for those of us who work with stories.”

I want to wish my readers a fulfilling and story-filled new year!