Tell Your Story Via Proust Questionnaire

My friend Sarah McCue, co-founder of Read/Share a Story “for women and men of the world to learn from each other for self-discovery, exchange, awareness of other cultures, and development of new friendships through online networking and communication,” just announced a Proust Questionnaire on the site. Sarah is also behind The Remembering Site.

When she mentioned the term Proust Questionnaire a few months ago, it was the first time I’d heard the term. Here’s the origin:

At the end of the nineteenth century, young Marcel Proust was still in his teens when he answered a questionnaire at two social events — one when he was 13, another when he was 20. At that time, it was a fad to answer such a list of questions that revealed the tastes and aspirations of the taker. Proust did not invent this party game; he is simply the most extraordinary person to respond to them. His answers can be easily found online and show the fascinating maturing of thought and priorities in life. Proust answered the questionnaire several times in his life, always with enthusiasm.

I can’t help thinking about all the questionnaires along these lines that have made the rounds of Facebook of late. Personally, I love both responding to these questionnaires and reading the responses of others. Many Facebookers are not so receptive.

But I think the addition of the Proust Questionnaire to Sarah’s site is brilliant. It’s a way to construct your story.

Here are the questions:

  • What is your current state of mind?
  • What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
  • On what occasion do you lie?
  • What do you most dislike about your appearance?
  • Which living person do you most despise?
  • What is the quality you most like in a man?
  • What is the quality you most like in a woman?
  • Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
  • What or who is the greatest love of your life?
  • When and where were you happiest?
  • Which talent would you most like to have?
  • If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
  • What do you consider your greatest achievement?
  • If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
  • Where would you most like to live?
  • What is your most treasured possession?
  • What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
  • What is your favorite occupation? <
  • What is your most marked characteristic?
  • What do you most value in your friends?
  • Who are your favorite writers?
  • Who is your hero of fiction?
  • Which historical figure do you most identify with?
  • Who are your heroes in real life?
  • What are your favorite names?
  • What is it that you most dislike?
  • What is your greatest regret?
  • How would you like to die?
  • What is your motto?

Judy Rosemarin Says Substitute Story for Elevator Pitch

This must be the week for kindred spirits in the realm of using storytelling in the job search. Rob Sullivan, a pioneer on this topic, has been my Q&A subject this week. A more recent discovery was Judy Rosemarin (pictured at right) , whom I came across while researching the executive-interviewing book I’m now working on. She has made some wonderful contributions to the book.

In a blog entry in yesterday’s Newsday.com Judy calls elevator pitches “stale and rote. They make claims but show nothing.”

Instead, she recommends telling a story when encountering new contacts. Here’s her example that clearly would make a wonderful emotional connection with others:

When I was a young boy growing up in Chicago, I bought myself a paper route at age 12. All excited, I took my bag of papers and threw the first on a customer’s front porch. Out of the front door he came. “Who are you?” he asked. “I am your paper boy, ” I told him with some pride. “Well, I want my papers delivered later in the day as I work late and do not want to be awakened. I also want it covered so it doesn’t get wet. And, anyway, what is going to make you different from all the other paper boys I have had?” “I said, “Well sir, I plan to give you the best customer service,” and I have been doing that for over 25 years in corporate America.

Nice. I talk about elevator stories, a similar concept in my book, Tell Me About Yourself.

Judy has also done a terrific podcast, “The Magic of Storytelling for Job Search,” the transcript of which you can read here.

Added May 31: In the Comments section, Sean Buvala points out that “many of us who have story as our core work, for years, have said the elevator speech is dead.”

He offers a link for his podcast on the subject.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Rob Sullivan, Part 5

 

See a photo of Rob, his bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.


Q&A with Rob Sullivan, Question 5:

Q: If you could share just one piece of advice or wisdom about story/storytelling/narrative with readers, what would it be?

A: If you haven’t seen the movie It’s a Wonderful Life, rent it. If you have already seen it, watch it again. Then, look back on every aspect of your life — not just your career — and ask yourself the question: “How are things better because I was here?” In other words, take yourself out of the equation. What happened that might never have happened without your input?

I call this the “It’s-A-Wonderful-Life-approach” to marketing yourself. And it’s the best way I know to make your story memorable and impactful.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Rob Sullivan, Part 4

See a photo of Rob, his bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, and Part 3.


Q&A with Rob Sullivan, Question 4:

Q: What’s your favorite story about a transformation that came about through a story or storytelling act?

A: It isn’t a coincidence that most of my favorite transformational stories are about career changers. After all, these are the people who have the most difficult challenge from a job-hunting standpoint. To make matters more difficult, traditional job search tools like résumés are practically useless because, by definition, a career changer is unlikely to have formal experience.

All of this was definitely true for Jill, a concert violinist who approached me about getting a job in advertising account management. When Jill first applied to Leo Burnett, the company was completely confused. When the interviewers looked at her résumé, they saw that she had played with the Chicago Symphony Orchestra, Sir Georg Solti, Daniel Barenboim, and the Moody Blues. It was a great story for a violinist. Not so great for a future advertising professional.

Looking at her résumé, I could only imagine the confusion in the mind of the recruiters who were probably thinking, “This looks great, but we don’t have an orchestra.”

At first, I was a bit confused as well. On the surface, it didn’t seem to make sense. However, after I encouraged Jill to chart her accomplishments in every area of her life, underlying themes of marketing and leadership emerged in almost every area of her life. She was recognized as a leader at age 12 when she began teaching violin at the music school’s request. From there, she marketed herself as a teacher, classroom instructor, musician, and manager of a string quartet. As she described the various marketing challenges, a more focused, enthusiastic person emerged.

Until that point, her cover letter, résumé — even her interviewing style–positioned her as a concert violinist who suddenly wanted to pursue advertising. By tracing her passion, quantifying her accomplishments, and retelling the story, we were able to position her as an accomplished marketer, problem-solver, and strategic thinking–who also happened to be a concert violinist.

After we repositioned her experience, Jill reapplied to Burnett and was hired — just a few short months after she was initially rejected. That’s the power of a great story.

SlideShare’s ‘Tell-a-Story’ Contest Spotlights Growing Recognition of Storytelling as Effective Presentation Technique

SlideShare has just announced a contest inviting entrants to tell a story in 30 slides or fewer.

Last year, the site held a more general contest, and I analyzed the winners for their storytelling capacity. I’m tickled that this year the storytelling theme is built in. I see more and more about the importance of storytelling in presentations — from such gurus as Nancy Duarte and Joyce Hostyn. That this year’s contest focuses on telling a story is a strong endorsement of storytelling in presentations. Of course, many would argue that to truly employ storytelling in a presentation would involve no slides at all.

Noting the popularity of the storytelling tag on SlideShare SlideShare has joined with Fuze Meeting to hold a contest in which stories “can be about anything. A story about you, your travels, or something you love. Just tell it with words and pictures and in 30 slides.”

Everyone who enters the contest gets a free Fuze Meeting account ($270 value), and prizes include a grand prize $5,000 and four category prizes: iPhone + $100 iTunes card, the categories being Best Design, Best Story Telling Ability, Most Popular, and Best Use of Multimedia.

Contest details here.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Rob Sullivan, Part 3

See a photo of Rob, his bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, and Part 2.


Q&A with Rob Sullivan, Question 3:

Q: What people or entities have been most influential to you in your story work and why?

A: From a speaking perspective, the person whose storytelling work I admire most is Doug Stevenson, the creator of Story Theater International.

The workshop with Doug was a terrific investment that changed the way I approached my workshops and keynotes. First, I discovered the magic of truly being myself as a speaker without worrying about what the audience might be thinking. Having gone through a variety of popular speaking programs, I was under the impression that speakers were always responsible for their audiences.

Doug doesn’t believe that. Instead, he went as far as to say:

“Some audiences suck.”

I resisted at first. But later I realized he was right. Rather than worry about the audience, he says:

“Love yourself and let them watch.”

In other words, do what you know works and don’t worry about the people watching. If you have fun, they’ll have fun.

If that seems counterintuitive, look at it a different way. As storytellers, when we craft the message, we have to take the audience into consideration. But when we perform the message, we have to do what we know works.

Not long after the workshop, I proved to myself that Doug was right. I was doing a workshop for a crowded room of college students who, for the most part, sat there motionless. I’ll never forget how surprised and disappointed I felt at their lack of responsiveness. Had I listened to the voice in my head from my early training, I would have spent the rest of the workshop exploring different ways to get their attention. Instead, I heard Doug’s voice saying, “Love yourself and let them watch.”

So, I didn’t change a thing. I did what I knew worked and did my best not to think too much about the audience. I wasn’t feeling especially good about the session until three weeks later when the school called and said, “Everyone loved you. You are our top choice for commencement speaker.”

Had I changed my story or my approach, the commencement invitation would never have been extended. Thanks, Doug!

Q&A with a Story Guru: Rob Sullivan, Part 2

See a photo of Rob, his bio, and Part 1 of this Q&A.



Q&A with Rob Sullivan, Question 2:

Q: You state on your Web site: “the experiences that employers would find most compelling are almost never included in the résumé. Worse yet, these experiences are rarely mentioned in the interview.” Can you give an example of this type of compelling experience — and without giving away all your secrets — give readers a hint of how one indentifies these kinds of compelling stories?

A: Aldous Huxley, the philosopher, once said, “Human beings have an unlimited capacity for taking things for granted.” I would take that one step further:

Human beings have an unlimited capacity for taking themselves for granted.

One of my favorite examples came from an event planner named Andrea who had a résumé loaded with the usual laundry list of responsibilities. However, telling people what you are responsible for is not storytelling. There is no magic in responsibilities. If you want your story to be special, you have to find and include a few unforgettable details.

Andrea had the details; but they were buried. After much probing, I finally got Andrea to admit that in eight years at the company she had never gone over budget and had never missed a deadline. That was the beginning of a good story, but we need more. So I asked her to create a list of all the events she had planned along with key facts like:

  • How many people attended each event

  • How many people she supervised

  • How much time she had to plan the event

  • Her budget

  • What she actually spent

  • How much she saved

Of all the facts we uncovered, two were most surprising:

  • The largest event she planned was for 20,000 people.

  • She had saved her company a million dollars over eight years by coming in at or under budget on all of those events.

That turned out to be a great story because the average annual savings of $125,000 per year was $50,000 more than she was paid. In other words, she was an investment, not an expense.

Andrea’s story is particularly impressive when you consider how she originally discounted her performance saying, “I just did the job I was paid to do.”

Q&A with a Story Guru: Rob Sullivan, Part 1

I could not be more excited to present this Q&A with Rob Sullivan because I think of him as my doppelganger in terms of using storytelling in the job search; we are twins separated at birth — except I think he’s probably quite a bit younger than I am. In any case, we are storytelling-in-the-job-search soulmates. He even wrote a book with a title similar to one of mine!

Bio: Rob Sullivan is an inspirational speaker and corporate trainer who has delivered workshops and keynotes at companies, universities, and trade associations across the country including TAP Pharmaceuticals, McDonald’s, Motorola, Northwestern University, and the University of Michigan. His passion is helping people recognize, leverage, and communicate the gold in their backgrounds.

Rob’s book, Getting Your Foot in the Door When You Don’t Have a Leg to Stand On (McGraw-Hill, 4th Printing), has already begun to replace top-selling What Color is Your Parachute? as a text in college career-development courses.

Rob has delivered numerous commencement speeches and been a repeat guest on television and radio stations across the country including NBC, ABC, and WGN. He was also featured in the Wall Street Journal and as a guest expert on Starting Over, an Emmy-award winning reality show that airs nationally on NBC.

Rob has a BA in psychology from the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, MA, as well as an MS in advertising from Northwestern University’s Medill School of Journalism.

He blogs at Storysparking and is a career practitioner at Career Craftsman, where he also offers several e-books. Rob has also just launched the site, RIFProofing as a companion to his e-book, RIFProofing Your Career (RIF stands for “Reductions in Force”).


Q&A with Rob Sullivan:

Q: Among all the practitioners I’ve interviewed in this series, you are the one closest to being a kindred spirit in terms of storytelling in the job search. How did you come to discover the effectiveness of storytelling in job-hunting?

A: I learned the effectiveness of storytelling by experiencing the pain that comes from not telling my story.

When I graduated from college, the job I wanted most was to work in account management at Chicago-based advertising giant Leo Burnett. Like hundreds of my classmates, I applied for one of the coveted on-campus interviews. Despite an objectively terrible interview, the recruiter saw enough of a spark that he invited me to fly to Chicago for a full day of interviews. Two weeks later, Burnett rejected me. Over the next 12 months, I had 80 advertising interviews in Chicago, New York, and Minneapolis. The following year, I reapplied to Burnett and was hired after my 23rd interview with the company. However, I was not a different person than I had been the year before. The only difference was that I had learned to tell my story.

As it turned out, there wasn’t a single moment or resource that opened my eyes to the value of storytelling. Instead, I gradually realized that the best interviews were the ones in which my story came across more clearly. At first, that made me think that my success was directly related to the skill of the interviewer. Only later did I realize the power and responsibility that I, as a candidate, had to make sure my story came across — regardless of the interviewer’s approach. Simply put, you can’t count on interviewers to ask effective questions. You have to have a strategy and a compelling collection of stories to help people make the right decision.

After spending countless hours helping job hunters from a variety of industries, I realized that the inability to share our stories is widespread – mostly because our society isn’t clear on the distinction between bragging and factual self promotion. For this reason, I decided to write Getting Your Foot in the Door When You Don’t Have a Leg To Stand On (McGraw-Hill). It’s the book that would have saved me from the ego-battering experience job hunters know only too well.

Recognizing that the challenge of marketing yourself effectively does not stop when you get a job, I recently finished a new eBook called RIFProofing Your Career: How to Protect and Keep Your Job in Any Economy. For more information, visit its companion site.

War Stories for Memorial Day

I’ve been looking for a good way to honor Memorial Day and those who have sacrificed for our country and was pleased to find Witness to War, from The Witness to War Foundation, “a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to preserving the stories and unique experiences of combat veterans. It was founded in an attempt to answer the unanswerable: What was it like to be there?”

More from this beautifully done site:

These are the stories of scared 18 and 19 year olds thrust into circumstances of such intensity and violence, that they became the defining moments of their lives.

Inc. magazine describes the site’s underpinnings and founder:

Seven years ago, Tom Beaty began interviewing World War II veterans and videotaping their stories. One veteran walked into a minefield in Italy to rescue friends; another witnessed a sword attack by a Japanese soldier; others crossed the Rhine under enemy fire. The recordings formed the basis of Beaty’s nonprofit organization, Witness to War, which is dedicated to preserving stories of veterans, including the World War II vets pictured here. Beaty’s interest in oral history began at the University of North Carolina, where he studied military history as an undergrad. He started Witness to War in 2002 — the same year he launched his business, Insight Sourcing Group, in Norcross, Georgia. Starting two ventures at once often proved hectic, but the interviews provided an escape. “These stories highlight the randomness of war, the constant violence,” says Beaty. “Yet a million people have gone through that and survived. How amazing is that compared to my daily life?”

The Story of Kettle Falls

2020 Update: This post refers to Kettle Falls as my “half-year” home, but after being here about a month, my now-ex-husband and I decided we missed nothing about Florida and made Kettle Falls our year-round home. The humorous Kettle Falls sign shown at the bottom of the post, has been replaced with one more sophisticated (after much controversy).

Once in awhile I post an entry that’s not about story but is a story — about my life or something related to my life.

Today I want to tell the story of Kettle Falls, WA, my adopted half-year home that I have been loving since we arrived here a little more than two weeks ago. It’s extremely presumptuous for me to tell the tale as such a newcomer, but I’m giving it a stab anyway because I find the story fascinating.

Humans, according to archeological evidence, have lived in this area for some 9,000 years. In fact, Kettle Falls is believed to be one of the oldest continuously occupied sites in the Northwest. The falls from which the town derives its name plummeted 40 feet into the mouths of huge stone caldrons,” hence, “kettles.” The falls were the site of spectacular salmon runs, where the native people (the Shontikwu) would catch 800 to 1,000 fish a day in certain seasons.

Settlers of European descent, specifically investors from New York, founded the town of Kettle Falls on the shores of the Columbia River in 1890 as a resort town. The resort quickly failed because the railroad bypassed the town.

Still, a very small town continued on the riverbank location until 1938. Kettle Falls was one of 12 (I’ve also read 11) towns scheduled to be flooded by the impending opening of the Grand Coulee Dam. While most of the towns that were to be flooded simply disappeared, Kettle Falls was one of the few that decided to move. So, entire buildings and 300 residents moved in 1938. Kettle Falls annexed itself to the existing Meyers Falls. Later, the blended town voted to change its name to Kettle Falls.

When the Grand Coulee opened in 1941, it wasn’t just the former town of Kettle Falls that was flooded but the actual falls, which have been submerged ever since except in 1974 when the river level was lowered for dam repairs. The photo at left shows a painting of the falls. The artist painted it after the falls were submerged, partly from memory and partly from photographs. I say river, but the water body that resulted from the Grand Coulee Dam is called Lake Roosevelt. It is simultaneously the river and the lake, which can be confusing. FDR had commissioned the Grand Coulee Dam as a Works Projects Administration project, in part to provide jobs during the Depression.

With the submersion of the falls, the salmon runs ended. The native peoples still hold yearly ceremonies mourning the end of the salmon bounty.

Ruins of the original town of Kettle Falls on the banks of the Columbia/Lake Roosevelt can still be found, though not easily as Randall and I discovered yesterday when we bicycled the area. Pictured is a pair of steps to a no-longer-existing building. We also saw sidewalks and foundations. Unfortunately, a large National Park Service RV campground surrounds the ruins.

Today, from what I’ve seen so far, the town of Kettle Falls has a big heart and a sense of humor. Citizens annually compete to the elected as the only town “grouch.” The new grouch will be named in two weeks at the annual Town and Country Days. The population on the logo below (from the Kettle Falls Web site) is a bit outdated; according to a billboard at the town’s entrance, Kettle Falls is now 1,640 strong.