Q&A with a Story Guru: Carol Mon, Part 5

See Carol’s bio, photo, and Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.


Q&A with Carol Mon (Question 5):

Q: Your clients seem to be primarily organizations, but much of what you have to teach about communication skills seems as though it would work on an individual level, too. Can you talk briefly about using some of your principles and techniques for people who want to, say, network, find a job, advance their careers, or improve communication skills?

A: Listed on my Web site are numerous organizations I have worked with on the development and delivery of story. Recently my business has grown significantly in the one-on-one coaching piece. Listing individuals as clients is problematic because many are looking for anonymity. I find working with individuals very rewarding because it is much easier to target one’s specific needs. In workshops some participants are good at delivery but struggle to find meaning, others are good at finding meaning but cannot easily find stories. Working one-on-one, the help I give is focused and feels more like co-creating. Workshops can feel a bit more one-sided, too much lecture.

My work with individuals has included working with speakers on stories for their keynotes, small business owners and their elevator speeches for networking, un-employed for interview stories and small business owners who are developing stories for brochures, or web content. It has been a wide variety of work which is fascinating and rewarding in the sense that I get to hear a lot of great stories.

Things I Like about Tokoni (and a Few Things I Don’t)

Tokoni is a story-sharing site that’s about a year old and has ties to eBay (investments, plus its founders were eBay execs). I like Tokoni as it offers features that could easily keep one absorbed for hours. The full “about us” description of Tokoni appears below, but here are my likes and dislikes:

 

 

 

 

    1. I love the ticker that runs across the bottom of the screen. If you see a story title crawl by that catches your fancy, you can click on it. Of course, doing so led to one of my dislikes — I had to register on the site before I was permitted to “engage” with a chosen story. I suppose that is the way of the social-media world, however.
    2. I like the story prompts or “requests” that users post. A few samples:
      • Just wondering if anyone else on tokoni is into Crocheting?
      • stories from caregivers of elderly parents
      • I would like to see stories about how people overcame their own bad parenting to go on and become good parents themselves.
      • Me gustaría ver historias en Español
      • I would like to see personal stories from other quilters.
      • I would like to see stories about what we as women can do beyond voting to change our world for the better
    3. Tokoni also has a featured story prompt, one presumably suggested by the staff. The current one: “Does your family have a tradition of giving back during the holiday season? What will you do? Share your story.”
    4. I like that the site has both story collections and story hubs, though it’s not easy to discern the difference. I believe collections are stories on a single topic by a single person, while hubs are interest groups in which multiple people tell stories on a single topic.
    5. I like the fact that Tokoni features “must-read” stories on its opening page. I also like the Tokoni promotes a spirit of helping through stories — providing lessons, comfort, inspiration, etc.
    6. I’m fascinated by, but don’t totally understand, Tokoni’s Bubble Browser. I think it shows connections among Tokoni users and/or their stories. See illustration at left (you can barely see the faint blue lines connecting these avatars).

Tokoni’s “About Us:”

At Tokoni, we believe everyone has a story to tell.

Whether it’s a family vacation you enjoyed thoroughly, a headline news event you witnessed personally, a health issue you overcame, or your journeys through the everyday trials of child rearing, you have a first-hand experience that’s worth sharing with others.

Why? Because stories help people. Your mother’s insight, teacher’s point of view, friend’s joke, or grandfather’s recollection — just think how these voices of experience have been a source of comfort, guidance, entertainment, and education in your life.

Now, imagine these meaningful stories of first-hand perspectives, recollections and knowledge shared with a global community, one based on honesty and respect. Consider how valuable it would be to post your own accounts for the benefit of others. Think how worthwhile it would be to read personal points of view from people all around the world who’ve “been there, done that.”

Welcome to Tokoni.

The Tokoni Story

We launched Tokoni in late 2007 to enable people to share stories and experiences within a vibrant and open community, where individual wisdom is celebrated and collective knowledge is valued.

At Tokoni:

The authentic act of shared storytelling is powerful. Life’s diverse stories are intrinsically entertaining, informative, influential and inspiring. Beyond just the facts, Tokoni stories allow people to explore places, events, issues and points of view with greater understanding and appreciation.

Stories are as rich and diverse as the lives people live. There is breadth to the subjects and depth to the content on Tokoni, giving people one-stop access to various communities of diverse interests. Collectively, the power and passion of individual voices of experience make for a complete resource, minimizing the need to participate in numerous online blogs, groups, and forums.

People want to connect with each other online in a more meaningful way. Unlike fragmented blogs and message boards where mostly one-way, narrow conversations are taking place or online social networks where people interact superficially with friends and acquaintances, Tokoni is an open community that helps people connect over shared experiences that matter most to them.

Everyone has a voice that should be heard. Tokoni members cultivate an inclusive and vibrant community where honesty and respect are honored and stories are shared, recognized and valued.

We welcome you to be a part of Tokoni where members can:

  • post personal stories and experiences on the site — be they compelling, cathartic, funny, helpful, inspiring or even absurd — that can inform, entertain and help others in a way that only first-hand, human-interest stories can do
  • browse or search the site by category, hub, member or story to access the voices of experience to many of life’s diverse happenings
  • create a “collection” of stories, like a personal “play list,” to group favorite stories or accounts from the same “life episode” (i.e., wedding stories, family stories, travel stories, etc.)
  • connect with other members over shared stories of interest and experiences of others
  • post comments and reward tokens to liked stories and authors
  • link stories to hubs where groups of people can share stories and join discussions
  • follow other users’ stories of interest
  • enhance personal posts by uploading videos and photos for an even more comprehensive story

Q&A with a Story Guru: Carol Mon, Part 4

See Carol’s bio, photo, and Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, and Part 3.


Q&A with Carol Mon (Question 4):

Q: One of the seminars you present is Tell Tales, Make Sales. How did you come to discover that storytelling is effective in sales? Do you have a story of a client that improved sales through storytelling?

A: Sadly, I stumbled upon this class. I belong to a Toastmasters group, and at the time there were several sales people also in the group. Knowing that I was a storyteller, one of them casually mentioned that he uses stories all the time in his sales process but that he didn’t feel he got all he could from the delivery. That got me thinking that maybe I had learned some techniques that sales people could benefit from. For one of the projects in the Toastmasters curriculum I put together a workshop for sales people. After receiving some good critique and glowing feedback for the presentation I developed it a bit more for the general sales population and started shopping it around.

I had one client who actually told stories fairly well but tended to go on too long and include far too much detail. After we spoke he trimmed the story to the essentials and noticed more people seemed to listen far more intently. We also talked about the need to listen to the customer’s story first so that the sales story chosen fits the need. I don’t have any figures of improved sales, but the sales person is far more confident when he tells his sales story.

Coin Stories

At this point, I am no longer amazed either by the things that people are asked to tell stories about or by their ability to tell stories about the most obscure topics.

Still, the last topic I would have thought about as story fodder is the concept of people saving up lots of coins and then taking them to one of those green CoinStar machines to sort them and get paper money (and apparently, now you can turn them in for gift cards, in which case, the counting is free).

But as I learned through Peter Shankman of Help a Reporter Out (HARO), the CoinStar folks are soliciting exactly these kinds of stories on their site:

Tell us your story for a chance to see your face on our big green machines in your hometown.

How much of your stash did you cash in? Did your change help you buy a new bike?

Perhaps you splurged on a cool gadget for your car, or maybe an afternoon at the spa — away from it all.

You can read submitted stories here and submit your own here.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Carol Mon, Part 3

See Carol’s bio, photo, and Part 1 of this Q&A and Part 2.


Q&A with Carol Mon (Question 3):

Q: How important is it to you and your work to function within the framework of a particular definition of “story?” (i.e., What is a story?) What definition do you espouse?

A: When I first got involved with storytelling I wrote “Storytelling in its simplest form is merely a relaying of events; in its art form, it is a mystical journey the teller and listener take together.” Both parts of storytelling have a place in our world. I still like the statement for how I believe it covers the different types of tales and would like to build on it by saying that I do not espouse one definition of story; one size does not fit all. Professional storytellers do not put much stock in anecdotes as stories and yet in the business world, anecdotes are powerful, easy ways to communicate. There are a few commonalities between all forms of story and those probably are what should be used to define story. Whether it is a one-liner, epic, ballad, poem, movie, anecdote, or fairy tale, all good stories evoke some kind of emotion and cause a connection between the teller and listener. Let’s not complicate it with pedantic definitions of opening, conflicts, resolutions, and character development. Many non-professional storytellers feel they should not use stories in their communications because their “stories” do not follow a strict form. A looser definition encourages more people to consciously use stories strengthening their messages.

Oops – Forgot One Visual Storytelling Activity/Prompt: Book Spines

When I wrote the other day about a couple of ideas for visual storytelling, I had a nagging feeling there was another one I had wanted to mention.

Nina Katchadourian has undertaken the Sorted Books project, as she describes below. She groups the books so that the titles on their spines make some sort of statement. Dare we say we could create a story with the spiny titles?

The Sorted Books project began in 1993 years ago and is ongoing. The project has taken place in many different places over the years, ranging form private homes to specialized public book collections. The process is the same in every case: culling through a collection of books, pulling particular titles, and eventually grouping the books into clusters so that the titles can be read in sequence, from top to bottom. The final results are shown either as photographs of the book clusters or as the actual stacks themselves, shown on the shelves of the library they were drawn from. Taken as a whole, the clusters from each sorting aim to examine that particular library’s focus, idiosyncrasies, and inconsistencies — a cross-section of that library’s holdings. At present, the Sorted Books project comprises more than 130 book clusters.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Carol Mon, Part 2

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See Carol’s bio, photo, and Part 1 of this Q&A.


Q&A with Carol Mon (Question 2):

Q: The storytelling movement seems to be growing explosively. Why now? What is it about this moment in human history and culture that makes storytelling so resonant with so many people right now? 

A: Humans have always used story to communicate, even when it was not recognized as “storytelling.” Before the explosion of the written word there was the oral tradition. History, culture, ethics, morals and traditions were all passed along through stories. It feels like we got lazy when books became so readily available and then music, movies and TV all conveying stories in different formats. As we got busier we lost patience to sit and listen and yet we humans all crave to have our story heard. Since the explosion of digital media people are finding it easy to write or record their stories for their descendants and by all accounts many are taking advantage of the technology. 

Digital technology might be one answer as to why an explosion of storytelling now but I believe there are several contributing factors to the renaissance. I don’t believe we humans ever stopped telling stories; we just didn’t always call it that. Marketers are now calling it storytelling and demonstrating how powerful a story is to making a message memorable. Since so many people don’t feel heard the venues extended by companies to let customers tell their stories are growing in popularity. Customers feel a bit of celebrity and mostly they feel heard. 

The development of technologies like PowerPoint also has inadvertently pushed the effort to bring back more stories. What seemed like a great communication tool has been overused and abused. Audiences are lulled to sleep with dull slide after slide or dazzled with the technology and miss the point of the presentation. Experienced presenters are finding that the good old story is still the best way to get the message out. 

Families are spread across the country; we communicate via email, text messaging, and quick hellos as we pass in halls, shops or even the home because of busy schedules. All very impersonal, yet as humans we crave and according to some studies, thrive on contact and interaction with others. Stories connect us and ground us. As we grow apart with over-scheduling and technology choices we also seek out ways to connect resulting in the explosion of the storytelling movement.

Q&A with a Story Guru: Carol Mon, Part 1

What a delight to present the 17th in my Q&A series with story practitioners. This one is with Carol Mon, with whom I became familiar through the Golden Fleece group. See her bio below. Her Q&A will appear over the next five days.

Bio of Carol Mon from her Web site:

Bio: Carol spent 13 years in human resources and payroll and another five in radio and TV before finding her passion for storytelling. She draws on these experiences to help others create and tell the right story. Since beginning her career as a professional storyteller/speaker in January 2000 she has told a wide variety of stories to a wide variety of audiences and has delivered dozens of workshops on the power of story in communications.


Q&A with Carol Mon (Question 1):

Q: If you could share just one piece of advice or wisdom about story/storytelling/narrative with readers, what would it be?

A: A big mistake that I see many novices make is to write out their story and then try to tell it by reading. For the most part, the way we are taught to write is very different from the way we speak; therefore, the stories don’t flow. Complex sentence structure, multi-syllabic vocabulary, in-depth descriptions, and emotive words are all part of what we might include in a written story that may not be necessary in an oral presentation.

When listening, people don’t have the luxury of going back to re-read a complex sentence or to savor the beauty of the sentence as they would if they were reading it. Yes, using elegant sentence structure can make the story come alive but too much in an oral presentation may tax the listener. The same is true with “big words” in an oral presentation. This is more from the presenter’s standpoint; too many multi-syllabic words in a row will slow the pace of the story and won’t always roll off the tongue easily. Some less commonly used words will add sophistication to the story — used sparingly is best. An oral presentation filled with many unusual vocabulary words will leave the listener translating definitions in his head, leaving little time for the imagination to develop pictures of the story. In written form, the reader is able to slow down when necessary, but in the oral form, the listener is forced along at the speed of the teller or risks being lost.

Part of the beauty of oral storytelling is the listener participates in the building of the story by using her imagination to fill in the full picture based on the description given by the teller. And part of the beauty of the written story is full descriptive scenes. Emotive words also are used very differently in the written form and in then oral form. When speaking, gestures, facial expressions and vocal changes all demonstrate emotions and different speakers. These must be translated into words to express what is going on in text form. Many of us are probably aware of the old saw, it’s not what you say but how you say it. Taking a dialog and copying it on paper can be flat; words might be needed to communicate the true meaning of what is being said. i.e., “Look! a fire” can be followed with, “how beautiful; let’s sit around it and toast marshmallows, or quick call 911.

And finally, for the storyteller who may not be a talented writer, telling the story orally can help in the writing process. Numerous tellings can be compared to several written drafts without the labor of writing and editing. Telling a story over and over will help get the emotion and feel for the story so that when you attempt to write it many of the bugs will be worked out and can make the conversion to a written form much easier. Writing stories and telling stories are both satisfying experiences but take slightly different talents.

Two Activities/Story Prompts with Visual Materials

Here are two activities I’ve come across focusing on visual storytelling:

  1. Photobooth Stories: This activity was an assignment for a class called Intermedia I in the Communication Studies Department at Concordia University. I’m guessing that the assignment was to tell a story using the 4 shots takes in a photo booth (as in the sample shown here). That’s one way to get story value from photobooth pix. I can imagine some expanded possibilities:
    1. Tell a story of your own using photobooth pictures.
    2. Guess the artist’s intention in the deliberate photobooth stories of others, such as those on the class’s Web site.
    3. Make up a story about old sets of photobooth pix that were not necessarily intended to tell a story.
  2. Cameramail: Modeled a project undertaken between Daniel Farrell and Richard Kegler and described on the Web site P22, Cameramail involves gluing a one-use camera onto a postcard.Current project overseer, Kyle Van Horn suggests that in the past, the cameras were rewrapped, thus “creating a suspicious looking item” (you can see some of the re-wrapped specimens on Van Horn’s site.) Van Horn “cut a hole through the cardboard to allow the shooter to access the thumb-advance and use the viewfinder.” Trial and error apparently taught him that handwritten notes to postal workers are more effective than computer-printed, and red tape also is helpful. The idea behind the project becomes apparent when you read this note to postal workers: Photos should be taken of everyone the camera encounters. Postal workers are asked to take a photo before passing it along. (You can quite a few post-office photos in this iteration of the project results.) Van Horn says he “usually either take[s] a picture of the person at the desk, or have them take one of me as the first shot on the roll.” “Bryan” of the blog Infocult calls Cameramail a “new distributed storytelling technique.”

Storied Lives: Mundane, Mediocre, Unremarkable?

Two portrayals of life stories that may seem unremarkable … but the charm and pull of these stories is truly in the eye of the beholder.

As a child of the 50s and 60s, I have long been fascinated by that era — from movies made during that time to what life was like for women of the period (a reason I adore the TV show “Mad Men.”) So, I was drawn to Carolyn’s Diary, being blogged by her son Bill. It’s debatable whether Carolyn’s Diary entries even tell a story, but through the cumulative journalings, the story of an American homemaker in the age of the Feminine Mystique emerges. Here’s how Bill describes the diary:

My mother kept diaries from January 6 1962 until the morning she died in October 1998. Her diaries were written for practical purposes, and provide a chronicle of the events of her days. Few feelings are expressed, if any, and you have to read between the lines to discern her emotions. She would often refer back to her diaries to confirm that the roof was replaced on this date, the taxes were paid on that date, the weather was sunny and warm or snowy and windy. My mother stopped working when I was born in 1959, and my father was a US Navy diver. My mother’s first diary was presented to her on January 6, 1962, when her parents arrived from Iowa for an extended stay as my dad prepared to leave the country with the Navy. … It is simply a record of the day-to-day life of an average American housewife.

The Most Mediocre Story Never Told is a one-man show that has been running recently in LA. A blog entry by Steven Leigh Morris explains the premise:

Jay Sefton wrote and performed in his one-man autobiographical show, “The Most Mediocre Story Never Told” … It’s the remarkable tale of an unremarkable young guy struggling to tell his life story in a one-man-show for reasons that he doesn’t fully understand. But perhaps by telling of his youth in Philadelphia, and his humiliating performance as Christ in a Catholic school production of the Passion Play, he will discover the reason that he’s on the stage recounting his adventures as a child actor, stooping in a ‘fairy robe’ to wash the feet of Christ’s disciples. … Sefton cuts to the heart of his tantalizing concept: ‘I looked up ‘story’ in the thesaurus, just to see if I had one, and most of the words had something to do with not telling the truth. Fable, yarn, gossip, rumor, legend. There are other words there too. Anecdote, chronicle, but there is a whole subsection called lie. As an actor we hear, ‘Just tell the story. What’s the story? I am just listening for the story. You are a storyteller. … Where are these stories? Where do they really exist? And who am I without them?’ Sefton asks in his show. … The broader question that Sefton doesn’t ask is, Who are we without stories?

Indeed. No matter how dull, mundane, trivial, and inconsequential our stories may seem, they make us who we are. They make us fascinating.