Paying Homage 7 Years into This Blog

This blog started seven years ago on May 12. It’s one of a few anniversaries I mark on the blog because I was a pretty sporadic blogger for the first three years.

But this weekend, I’m looking at some of these milestones. Early on, and from time to time, I’ve referenced Reader’s Digest as one of the major influences on my passion for story.

The magazine and its site ran a nice contest recently in which readers were asked to tell their life stories in 150 words. Now, to me, that’s a much more reasonable word count for a life story than Smith Magazine’s 6-word memoirs.

Some of the stories in this collection of the top 13 stories are not really stories by purist definitions, but some are, and they’re all compelling and though-provoking.

It’s just nice to think about my roots as I reflect on the seven years of A Storied Career.

Should We Flip the Script on Job-Search Storytelling?

When I read Michael Margolis’s recommendation to “flip the script” on a certain kind of story, I wondered if that suggestion should apply to accomplishment stories told in the job search.

Even before storytelling was recognized as a significant technique for job-search communication, the standard formula for job-search stories was (and remains) Problem (or Situation or Challenge) –> Action –> Result.

I’ve suggested in my book, Tell Me About Yourself (beginning on bottom of page here), flipping the script in the case of resumes. I recommend telling accomplishment stories backwards in a resume (Result –> Action –> Problem) because the result needs to quickly grab the eye of the reader rapidly scanning the resume.

In Inside the Storytelling Matrix, Part 1: Problem and Paradox, Michael also says to subordinate the Problem, but for a different reason:

By declaring your problem in full, scary and vividly complex detail, you just remind us that things can kind of suck. If you lead with doom, chances are you’ve already lost. … We already know the world is full of problems. So many that we often go through our day trying to tune them out as best as possible.

Instead, Michael says, we should “Start by describing the positive truths about what already exists and what you know is possible.” Then, he recommends, create tension by describing the obstacle that stands in the way of the possible.

However, I think the kind of story he’s talking about is different from an accomplishment story that a job-seeker might tell in an interview. He’s talking about a story intended to spark organizational change or change people’s behavior — a story akin to the Springboard Story Steve Denning describes: “… a story that enables a leap in understanding by the audience so as to grasp how an organization or community or complex system may change.”

One instance in which I can see how to use this type of story in the job search is when the job-seeker is targeting a very specific employer need or problem and is proposing being hired to address that need to solve that problem. He or she may even be trying to create a job where one did not exist.

Let’s take an example directly from Michael’s post:

Positive truth about what is possible: Social media is transformating the flow of information and power.

Paradox/Obstacle: [Yet] most people still don’t know how to use social media mindfully and purposefully.

Here, the job-seeker could describe how he or she could use social media mindfully and purposefully for the employer (and/or train others to do so) and tell how he or she has done so for other employers.

(By the way, Michael wasn’t the only one to use the term “Storytelling Matrix” this week. The folks at Story Worldwide also used it in this video in a way that is very different from Michael’s usage.)

Thaler Pekar & Partners Offers New Website

The firm of Thaler Pekar, a good friend of A Storied Career, has a new Website. Check it out here.

Here’s what Thaler writes about the revamped site:

In a complex, loud, and data-saturated world, our work increasingly focuses on the importance of narrative — and the necessity of discovering and communicating meaning across multiple channels. The new website is a celebration of seven progressively exciting years of providing high value throughout the world.

The Sharing section of the site is especially interesting, containing Thaler’s Twitter feed, a video of a lecture she did at Kent State University, and articles/posts such as “The Benefits of Building a Narrative Organization,” “Why Story Matters,” “The Trouble with Values,” “Stories Matter: How to Power Up Your Activism,” “Thaler Pekar’s Ethical StorySharing RoundUp,” “Emotion and the Search for Meaning at SXSW,” and “Making Sense of Occupy Wall Street.”

The Story You Tell Yourself Also Affects Your Job Search

I’ve written many times in this space about using story to communicate persuasively to employers to get jobs.

But the inner stories we tell ourselves also color the job search.

When I was teaching at the college level, I had a student who insisted she had no skills. Nearly four years of college had resulted in … no skills. Pretty sad. What sort of frame of mind do you suppose she took into the job search? With a belief that she had no skills, what sort of job would she pursue after graduation?

Then there are those who tell themselves they are too old, and no employer will hire them.

Ron Campbell underscores the importance of the inner story in this post, in which he writes:

Like the stories we tell ourselves, these stories have a major impact on our successes and our failures. The story you tell yourself will impact the actions you take. The story you tell others will impact the actions others will take in your behalf. Ironically, but absolutely, the story you tell yourself will play a major part in the story you tell others.

For job-search and career success, you need a self-story that inspires you with success. As Campbell writes:

It begins … with the story you tell yourself about your skills, your value and your greatness, and the story you tell yourself about the opportunities available to you…. In today’s age of social networking and ease of communication, once you have your story, the opportunities are limitless.

Yes, Hiring Decision-Makers Want to Hear Your Story

More and more career coaches and experts have joined the chorus touting the use of story in job-search communications. What’s more unusual is to hear from hiring decision-makers — employers, recruiters, and the like — who want to hear job-seeker stories.

I am convinced that most do; their desire to hear/read your qualifications expressed in story form simply may not be at the tip of their consciousness, or they aren’t able to articulate that stories are what they want.

Thus, I’m always happy to hear it when a hiring decision-maker recognizes the desire to hear the stories behind candidates, as in the case of recruiter Phillip J. Smith, writing in this post:

In the magical world of recruiting, I want to hear — and subsequently tell — your story. Take every opportunity within the career process to draw your desired audience in by appealing to their emotions, rather than inundating them with facts, figures, and data that seemingly measure “success.”

Intentionally craft your resume to tell the epic tale of how you went from being a waitress at 21 years of age to the National Director of Marketing. Dramatically rehearse your responses to popular interview questions being sure to give attention to tonality, body language, and gestures. Colourfully share the message of what you genuinely value and cherish in this world through your various online social media platforms. Ultimately, bring your desired audience to [its] feet in rousing applause, cheering you on and chanting your name, leaving them wanting more — all through the power of your story.

Q and A with a Story Guru: Kimberly Burnham: The Power of Clinical Stories Should Not Be Taken Lightly

See a photo of Kimberly, her bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.

Q&A with Kimberly Burnham, Question 5:

Q: If you could share just one piece of wisdom about storytelling with readers, what would it be?

Q: The placebo effect is the result of storytelling. It is the story the patients tells themselves about the benefit of a particular substance or treatment. It is the story the doctor, researcher or healthcare practitioner tells the patient about their future, about their recovery. Are they believable? Does the way they tell the story of healing benefit the patient or does it create a nosebo effect?

The nosebo effect is when you believe something bad will happen as a result of a substance or treatment. When a doctor tells someone with cancer they have six months to live, I believe he or she is using storytelling to curse the person. The power of clinical stories should not be taken lightly.

In one of my favorite movies, The Last Holiday, Queen Latifah’s character is told she will die from a brain tumor, and there is nothing she can do. She sets off to spend all her money doing things she has always wanted to do but didn’t take the money or time. It turns out she was misdiagnosed. The movie is really about how a person living fully, passionately, holding nothing back can do amazing things.

Here is a poem I wrote about the placebo effect in my own life.

Controlling the Uncontrollable

Only nothing is nothing: placebo
psychology plays in your electric brain
physiologic effect in my blazing body
is not nothing
Only the placebo effect
white coat scientists mock my alternatives

You feel better, pain-free
She dances stronger, hips flexible
Tottering becomes balance,
a credit to all powerful placebo
I can live with that, I am good with that

Nosebo, placebo telling me I am, I have
a wicked genetic condition
Saying there is nothing
I can do anything
professional photographer
going blind
This is not okay!

Alternative medicine solutions
migraine-free years
genes without change
better vision than 40
Seeing the pattern of flow
Avoiding the car accident by a hair.
Placebo storied pattern recognition
new stories as every cell listens
telling hopeless doctors
I see you, placebo my eye.

Q and A with a Story Guru: Kimberly Burnham: What Story Would You Tell If You Were the Last to Touch Someone?

See a photo of Kimberly, her bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, Part 2, and Part 3.

Q&A with Kimberly Burnham, Question 4:

Q: What people have most influenced your story work recently and why?

A: I am presently in Laurie Wagner’s Telling True Stories course. Her “wild writing” is transformative, freeing the stories inside by writing as fast as possible, messy, juicy, without editing until it is all there on the page. The gems that come out magnificent.

Laurie also turned me on to Ellen Bass’s narrative poetry, “What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone?”

What story would you tell?

Michael Margolis’s Reinvention Summit in April 2012 showcased three minutes of my story of vision recovery and my ideas on how consciously telling your story of healing is vital.

Tell your story, knowing that every cell in your body is listening, responding to the stories you tell yourself and others. My favorite quote from Michael was: “Storytelling is a kind of pattern recognition.” Published last year, my messenger mini-book, Our Fractal Nature, a Journey of Self-Discovery and Connection seeks to shine a light on the patterns, the changes that occur at each iteration of the story of your health and healing. Every cell in your body is an information seeking pattern detector, listening as you tell the stories of your past and imagine the future. Your cells are constantly seeking to uncloak the secrecy, share information and find worthy resources.

Earlier this year, I spent precious moments with 50 Pebbles in the Pond authors and remarkable writers at Christine Kloser’s Transformational Author’s Retreat. Not only did we tell our stories, we deeply shared our dreams, hopes and vulnerabilities. By speaking of what we had experienced, what we had come through as well as how we transform our lives, we created community.

Entwined in Bo Eason’s Personal Story Event, I enjoyed the “Tell us the 10 Coolest Things About You” exercise and the Timed Storytelling exercise. Facing the man across from me, I have three minutes to tell my story. Moving down the line with two minutes for my story of vision recovery and migraine relief, I talk faster trying to massage more syllables into the ticking seconds. Moving again. One minute. My tongue can’t go faster, my heart must choose the words with the most impact. I look at each story in the 300 pages I prepared to be here. If I knew I had only one minute to have a positive impact on you, what story would I tell? What offering of myself will have the greatest healing impact?

In Writing Down the Bones, Natalie Goldberg explores, “it takes a while for our experience to sift through our consciousness. It is hard to write about being in love in the midst of a mad love affair. We have no perspective. It’s not yet in our body.” Writing, telling, talking and listening I gain perspective. I share my voice so you and I and others may live better — see more clearly.

In Matrix Energetics, the Experience, developed by Richard Bartlett, I use two points to explore the particles of experience, mine and yours. I feel into the waves of possibilities, tapping into the quantum physics field to find the story of change, of healing, of vibrancy. I mentally time-travel forward and backward to exploring how the story of the past can change and how the story of the future can develop. Photons and sounds moving all in the service of quality of life, of creative expression, and of love and light.

I am the master of what I create. There are no victims here, as I tell my life, grateful for the experiences, sharing what I have learned, sharing what can to help another on their journey, sharing the ways we can journey together in peace and joy.

Q and A with a Story Guru: Kimberly Burnham: Embodying a Story of What Can Change

See a photo of Kimberly, her bio, Part 1 of this Q&A, and Part 2.

Q&A with Kimberly Burnham, Question 3:

Q: You said in an interview, “As I write my stories, I see my life in a fresh way. I see what I have learned from different experiences. I see what I have to share that can inspire others. I see the patterns emerge. Writing about your experiences is so important, as is sharing your talents and learning, but ultimately you must have experiences.” How have you seen this story writing and pattern recognition get results for clients?

A: Writing and telling my own story has been so beneficial for me because I have started to see the patterns, the way the peak experiences in my life connect creating a continuity so that each experience gives me a glimpse of what is possible and prepares me for this present moment.

For example, I have a strong connection with Japan. My father was in the US Navy off the coast of Japan when I was born. Twenty-one years later I went to Japan as a missionary for the Mormon church. Finishing university back in the US, I returned to Japan with my girlfriend to teach English. I studied shiatsu, a kind of Japanese body work and learned about meditation and Buddhism, while I was there. I have Japanese pears growing in my Connecticut garden. At Bo Eason’s Personal Story Event, one of the “10 Coolest Things About Me” was, “I speak Japanese.” I am not yet at the end of my life, but I see a current running through it. Japan connects my religious heritage and my chosen meditation practice; it colors my worldview and the way I see the potential in people. I have learned a lot about my inner strength through my connection to Japan. I joke that I am Japanese. The word for a Japanese person is “Nihonjin” and can mean, “land of the rising sun person”, literally “root sun person” but also “two legged person”. The joke is funnier in Japanese, which I speak, and that means — I can do anything.

In Christine Kloser’s book, Pebbles in the Pond, Transforming the World One Person at a Time (May 20, 2012), I tell my story of vision recovery and share some of my experience with clients — the miracles I have seen. Writing my story and then telling clients, family, social-media friends, and perfect strangers about it has forced, or at least encouraged, me to see the gifts in my vision-disorder diagnosis and how that propelled me into a search for answers, which has been, I see now, an incredible journey. The telling has been powerful because I am embodying a story of what can change, and every cell in my body is listening to me reinforce my belief in my ability to heal and everyone’s ability to transform their lives. I believe it gives people hope that their physical reality can change, positively influenced by the stories they tell themselves and the story their nerves and sensory body is telling them.

I often ask clients to send me an email about what has changed, what is better a few days after a treatment session. This request does two things. One: they are consciously connecting experiences and looking for what is better. Two: they are writing, telling a story of what is healing, spiraling in a positive direction. You can get tremendous insights by looking for how you are connected to what is good in your life.

Often the last place I touch on a client is an area that feels good rather than where they have pain. I make that the last place because they leave the clinic thinking about that place where they feel good. And that changes everything.

Q and A with a Story Guru: Kimberly Burnham: Start Telling a Different Story When Someone Asks, ‘How Are You?’

See a photo of Kimberly, her bio, and Part 1 of this Q&A.

Q&A with Kimberly Burnham, Question 2:

Q: What is the framework or your particular definition of “story?” What definition do you espouse?

A: Stories can change, even the story our physical body is telling, sometimes shouting.

I work with clients clinically. I have a PhD in integrative medicine and am certified in integrative manual therapy, matrix energetics, and health coaching. The people I work with don’t like the story their body is telling. They want a new experience of the physical particles making up their joints, muscles, heart, and brain.

The body’s story is constantly evolving. If you look at a person they look more or less the same from one moment to the next but they are not the same. At each point of transition in time, the story can change. Even at a bony level the cells of our skeleton are completely different when compared to seven years ago. Our skin cells are completely different from a few weeks ago. So why do we look more or less the same?

Because the story our cells are telling is the same, the environment they are born into is the same, the experiences and level of communication they attain are the same with access to the same resources and voice.

Albert Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

If you want a different experience of your joints, of brain clarity, of vibrancy, start telling a different story when someone asks, “How are you?” Change your environment, the food you feed your cells, the oxygen you draw into your lungs, your blood flow pumping through your heart on its way to the liver, to the brain, to the spine. Change something if you don’t like what you have.